Yes...believe it or not...you're getting your first orientation to college love. I was hesitant at first to blog about this, but honestly, we're all adults (or at least close), and I think we can handle the upcoming information. Of all of us Hopkins Interactive people, everyone automatically assumes that I am the best person to write this blog, and let me just give you a little insight into how this has come to be.
I am the typical (really not typical, but for all you non-Southerners, I'll let you dream) Southern girl that when she reaches that certain age, she moves on from dating and into "THE SEARCH." Most of my friends from home are: 1.) married, 2.) engaged, or 3.) have been in a steady relationship for at least a year. It is unlikely that any of us will reach 30 and still be single. My mother was married at this point in my life, and well, there's a little pressure there as well, so I came to Hopkins thinking, "Finally, I can meet a boy that understands and loves what a dork I am."
With that in mind, it would make sense that I've made my rounds, and I do not mean that in a scandalous manner in ANY way. I mean that I've had my fair share of boyfriends at Hopkins, from the Computer Science majors, to the classic frat boy, to the "illustrious" lacrosse players.
One of the most common myths of Hopkins is that there is a magnetic force that repels guys and girls from each other and that relationships are impossible here. Well, actually, it's not that scientific a reason, but people do have this pre-conceived notion that we are WAY too busy to actually have a relationship here, and that if we did...well, it would be more of a big study session. Though I would love to paint the perfect picture of romantic dinners at Fells Point, movie nights at the Charles Theatre, and long walks along the Inner Harbor several times a week, I can't. Hopkins is a challenging school, and though many look for love, we're not here to get our MRS. degree (or MR. degree for those boys out there). School does come first for all of us, but if we find ourselves in a position to date, there's nothing holding us back.
So if people do date, you might ask...what's the dating pool like at Hopkins? Well...first things first...we're not just limited to those within a 1 mile radius. We've got TONS of other schools in the area, so you start thinking: Naval Academy, Goucher, Loyola, Towson, University of Baltimore, U of MD, and for you guys...College of Notre Dame. So if you think that way, we've each got about 15,000 options, and though that might be a small number for Samantha Jones on Sex and the City, it suffices for us amateurs. But if you're looking to keep your boundaries inside the Hopkins campus, do NOT be concerned. Though we're a school on the smaller side, you never feel as if you've seen everything here. I'm in my junior year here, and I'm still continuing to meet people in my class that I've somehow missed for the past 2.5 years.
But I could keep going on for ages, so I thought I'd mix it up a bit and come up with Rachel's Fabulous Rules of College Dating:
1. Be Yourself- Ok, I know this is WAY beyond cliche, but honestly, we were all a little bit of a geek in high school. It might have been those 7 AP classes we took our junior year, or it might just have been our obsession with Disney movies (for me, it's StarTrek addictions), but when I first arrived here, for the first time, I felt like everyone had their own little quirk, and that it was NO big secret or something to be ashamed of. So honestly, if you like to play with your pet brain (Michelle) or the next biggest thing for you is "Ender's Game" being made into a movie (I LOVE ORSON SCOTT CARD...and yes, it is, in fact, true), don't hide it because most likely, we've got a little something that's similar.
2. Though you might be college students, get off campus!!! I asked one of my sorority sisters about
what constitutes a date, and she responded with, "Eating at the Fresh Food Cafe together is NOT a date." Yes, us college kids are cheap, but in order to truly separate school and a relationship, whether it's going into Little Italy, cooking in, or getting carry-out from one of the local restaurants, you need to have a little bit of time that does not include classes or twenty of your friends. A lot of people respond to that with they don't have time for that stuff, but someone's got to eat dinner, so not a valid excuse.
3. DON'T immediately get into a relationship the minute you get here. This was one of my biggest mistakes. Within a week of getting here, I was already dating someone. Though I felt pretty good about it, the relationship ended, and I realized that I knew NOBODY because instead of meeting new people throughout the first month, I was trapped in my 10x10 dorm room watching movies with the boyfriend. Take your time when you get here and meet new people. College is not about finding the man of your dreams (though I definitely thought it was when I got here)...it is about new experiences and meeting new people and enjoying yourself!
4. Study together: I know it sounds terrible, but I mean this is in the coolest sense. Honestly, I find that when I'm dating someone here, I become a better student. #1, because I'm a competitive person, and well, I don't want to be the "average" person that someone dates, and #2, because if you want to make time for a relationship, you have to be great with time management, and well, not gonna lie...I'm pretty bad at time management. Plus, who really wants to sit in the library alone and do work when you could have someone to take coffee breaks with? (Have I mentioned we're getting 2 new Starbucks...no addiction, I swear).
But that's pretty much it...if you want to make the dating scene work, it's totally do-able.
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